You watched what with your child? #SexNdMovie

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Wanna Ride?

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As I approach and take my seat. You whisper close your eyes, and instantly I feel my body going Up and down… Back and forth, like a roller coaster. I gasp for air as I climax up. Then the drop. YES! the drop back down only makes you want more. So the next time your love meets, the only question will be Wanna ride? 

 

 

Time for Self Reflection.

Time, Money, and Air. They all have something in common and is what everybody wants. More Time, More Money, More Air. If you had more time, what would you do? If you had more money, what would you do? And if you know your air supply would never run low and you can live forever, what would you do??? Time for self reflection. #MyTruth, nothing.

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Nothing because if I’m unable to accomplish my goals with the time money, and air available to me now, what is a little extra going to do? Well, with a little more time I may not find myself procrastinating. More money….Well you think about that, and with more air I can out live my kids kids kids!!! And see there kids have kids. 

So maybe every once in a while,    

Allow yourself to …………Self Reflect.

So I tell myself what more in this life do you want to accomplish with your Time, Money and the Air you breathe. We all want something. but if you allow TIME MONEY and AIR determine your GOALS, then just like all three will soon decease, you will too. What do you need to self reflect on? #MyTruth 

When Life is half Full.

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Why is it in life, for most is half full? Now when I say half full, Mytruth things are moving along to quickly or not quickly enough. I remember a time when it took forever and a month for Christmas to get here, now it seems like you can blink and we are saying HAPPY NEW YEAR, all over again.

As you get older, life moves a lot quicker. You want it to slow down because there may still be some things you need to accomplish. As a child all you want to do is grow up and explore life on your terms. Act out on all your dreams and try to accomplish them. Name one thing that you knew when you was younger that you was going to accomplish once you are old enough? I’ll wait…. For most to be successful and have a better life than what your parents possibly gave you.

Mytruth.

My parents did there best to raise me and my siblings. Most would say that, but there was always a part of me that said. when I get older I will handle that situation differently. I will make sure that my kids will not have to go through what I had too.

  Life really is all you make it. Or is it? Me personally, I still see life as half full. My life in my 30’s is not what I expected. When I was 25 before my mom passed away then shortly after my dad, I thought for sure I would have a successful business and be a almost millionaire. Now that I am in my 30’s,  I know for sure there is still so much to Carlisa that has not been heard or seen. I surprise my self everyday. With new ideas and future endeavors.  Although life for me is still half full, I plan on filling that glass soon. I know that there is more. Do you see more for yourself? That is something we can all ask our self everyday. Never stop growing. #MYtruth

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I Just opened an Online Store!

The lil People around me are huge K-Pop fans. They love getting together to sing and dance, and discuss why there BIAS is the best. So I created a store for all KPOP fans alike. Where they can shop, and stay up to date on there latest K-Pop artist, group and newly added merchandise. check out the store on shopify.com @ all-t-shirts-k-pop.myshopify.com. Enter your email to stay up to date on new merchandise to purchase. 

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Back in my zone. #DoU

When you are trying to do you, and your a wife, mother, sister, friend and maybe even a CEO. Shit can get tough. Just about everyone around you needs your attention. Trust me I know. As the older sister, but not the eldest sibling as a female and having nurturing ways, I want to help everyone around me do them, but am I doing me? Mytruth no, and not for a very long time. So I told myself for 2019 I would do things differently.

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At least when it comes down to what I want to do for self. This year I plan on travelling to a state or city that I have never been, start a kick boxing class because this is something I always wanted to do, and finally use my birthday gift certificate from 2018 for a full body massage. Just to name a few. Back in my zone is just what it is. Focus on self and do more for self. Don’t get lost in what everyone else needs to do before you check YOU. You only get one life. #MyTruth

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Does he know? Her Thoughts.

Does he know the way I feel? The way my body trembles when he is near. How the sound of his voice makes me want him more. How his heart beat, when connected to mine is as if we was one. Does he know that his touch makes me shutter, and think back to that one time. Does he Know? Maybe he does, because the way he takes control, and gives me each and every piece of him. I know he knows, because I am his. His one and only.  

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I remember the very first day that I saw him
I found myself immediately intrigued by him
It’s almost like I knew this man from another life
Like back then maybe I was his husband, maybe he was my wife
~India Arie – The Truth

 

 

 

Leaving my 9-5 # LifeChoices

Leaving my 9-5 after ten years on the job, was just one of many hard life choices I had to make. My dad always told me to keep a job. So when I put my two weeks in I questioned myself over and over. Was this the right thing to do? What will my next move be? How am I going to take care of things without a steady income? Like I said alot of thoughts. The one thing I knew for sure, my family needed me at that moment more then my 9-5, and I had to do what I had to do.

Once it was official and coming up to my last day on the job, I was in denial. I started to doubt what I was doing, and made it seem as if I needed this 9-5 to continue to have a steady income. In some ways this is so very true, however I had to believe that what I was doing was a start to me getting things in order (routine) with my family, and also so that I can push myself further preparing for my role as an entrepreneur, along with already being a caretaker, mother, and wife.

This journey as an aspiring entrepreneur is not easy. Of course I never said it would be easy. There are so many moments where I have said Fuck this, let me go back to a 9 to 5. I can’t do this. My resume is still up and available on most common work sites. I have had several job offers, and opportunities to work, however with the assurance and trust of my husband that I do not need to go back to work, I have turned them all down. That helped ease my guilt of not providing after my nut shell started to run low.

I allowed family and friends to say things to me and make me feel as if what I did was very stupid, and I needed to go back to work, like an employee. In ways I felt that what everyone was saying was true. Then I started reading more and focusing on MY mental health. I needed to go back to the drawing board. If I did not want to have an employer I needed to successfully employ myself. Become self made.I knew with all the success over the past 10 years with my former employer, that I was going to be alright. Anything I put my hands on becomes my master piece. It was just I wanted my success now and not later. I knew I would have to apply myself more to achieve the level of success I want. I allow still, most life issues to determine what my next move will be. I have to release my mind from doubt and continue to TRUST. My Truth always believe in YOU. Nobody else will feed you and uplift you like you should and can. Yes positive people is always an up in your life, but self love is always the best love, and if you don’t have self love how can you love on anybody else. Take a minute and marinate on that. #My Truth

Let’s Get It!

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2018 for most may have been a year like no other. Shit! Any other year besides 2018 may have been crazy to, but to reflect on what was… like your past….. that is always something most may need to do. It may help you get a better understanding on you knowing what’s yours and what is expected of you, because of self reflection. How this life may help you become your best SELF. We all can use a push. Your past thoughts, memories relationships and feelings will have you foresee what you don’t want to be, and start becoming who you know you are called to be. Could it be a new start to your future YOU are a setback to what your past looked like. No one wants a repeat. Let’s Get It!

My Truth! everyday regardless of what the year may be, everyone, everywhere  is attempting to accomplish something within them self to show their inner self that we can and will do better. Social media if you allow it just like your co workers family and friends, will make you feel as if you are not doing sugar honey iced tea with yourself. Trust me I know.

When I first decided that it was time to leave my 9 to 5 to help with my grandmothers home care needs, I had a game plan. A system. I was sure that I had a handle on my entrepreneurship. As the first week, month passed…ok we in month 5 now, and I felt myself slowing down. I did not post on any sites and I was just having a pity party with myself. I had support all around, but it was that self feeling of failure.

Like I was just not getting anything right. Of course I would not allow myself to stay down for long. My husband kids, grandma and family needed me so I had to get my self together. I thank God for reflection and meditation. It helps me to know just how important I am to my self and other. Although I may not get it all right or have it all together just yet. My Truth it is working out just as it should. One step at a time. 

You have something in your teeth!

Name a time when you was with someone, your sister or your close friend, and you was eating out, and afterwards you notice something was in their teeth. Do you tell them or let it ride?

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Mytruth telling someone something is in there teeth, is just as hard as telling someone some real personal information. you know your truth. But why is that? For me if something is in your teeth, nose, or even on your face it will take me a minute or two before I say something. I don’t know why, but it’s like a feeling of hesitation. I would feel more bad not saying something and someone else mentions it.

That’s how most people should be with there personal truth. Everybody on social media does not need to know everything. Once people see that view of you, unless its for a money bag they automatically judge you. This world is a mean place, and tough skin will get you through, but when you self inflict pain to your self that is even worse.

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I know things get hard. To be 33 years old, I have seen a lot for my age growing up. It surely was not a white picket fence, but some things I choose to keep between myself and the ones who know. Of course your story can be a life lesson for someone, but make sure it is at the right place and the right time to disclose. Make sure the message you are trying to spread is somehow going to help the next. That’s what life is to me. I don’t expect the same view for you, but I believe in that each one teach one. Live your life people. #Mytruth 

What does your vibe read?

You just walked in a room full of people. Some may or may not know who you are. But to the ones who may not, when they see you what vibe would they read off you? Are you one to stir up the pot (start drama) or are you more of the reserved type? Keep to your self. Either way everybody is different. Unique in there own way. Identical and fraternal twins still have something about them that is not the same as there sibling. Mytruth your spirit can truly give off a vibe, that can make people see you as a person of interest, or a person of distance.

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Now a days with the way this world is spinning, you really don’t know who to trust, but our humanistic instincts will kick in leaving us vulnerable to new relationships. It’s like that co worker at work that may be in the break room at the same time you are, and you engage in conversation.

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You never know who you will meet or come in contact with. So always be on point. Now don’t be fake about it. Be you and if you are one to stir the pot then make sure you are making some dollars while you being in drama. It ain’t no need to be talking about the next if you are not getting a check. So when you walk in a room, be the one who everyone looks at and say to themselves who is that, oh I need to know her. Oh she look pretty cool. Like I said you never know who you may meet or come in contact with. #MyTruth 

 

 

For the fame or money?

 

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I want to be rich! No, I want to be famous! Wait or do I want both? With social media that’s what it seems like life is all about. The world we live in subjects us to so much of other people’s business. What their doing at this very moment, who they may be with, or even there location. Either way you have front row seats to most people life, and it may not always be good news.

Everybody wants to be rich, but may not want the fame that comes with it. Mytruth I will take the money over the fame and publicity. I really am a private person. My spirit and the gifts that I hold just will not allow me to stay in my lane or better yet to myself. I am a talker although very quiet.

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That is why I started this blog site. There are so many avenues to become famous and or rich. As a child everybody dreams of having a good job, house, car to get married and have kids. Who wouldn’t? Everyday is lesson learned, because I am on my entrepreneur path to success. Starting from the bottom with little to nothing but I keep pushing through it. I know that starting a blog or even an online store will have its challenges, but I am ready. I will continue to push forward because I know what I want and I know I will get it. By all means. So for fame or money? No, I just want to create a lifestyle for myself children and family. Create lanes and avenues for other liked minded people that know there truth. Fame and money is easy to obtain, just know your truth and your worth. Collect the money, don’t let the money collect you. Keep pushing towards your goals.  #MyTruth 

 

Morning Coffee!

Lying here next to you feeling your heart beat against my breast. Our heart beats are in sync as we breathe in and out. Your hand gently brush my nipple, gently giving a little pull. I reached for your love stick and gently stroke it back and forth. You whisper in my ear, ” Can I have some coffee?

 

 

Word play Turns into gun play
Gun play turns into pillow talk
Pillow talk turns into sweet dreams
Sweet dreams turn into Coffee in the morning

Miguel – Coffee

You did what? #Changes

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How is that when you decide to do something different in your life, and you may have shared the possible change with your mom, dad, or even your closest friend there reaction is not what you was expecting. The response most people give off can be a negative response, and for someone going through a life changing situation that is the last thing they want to hear or see.

 

Mytruth, the only reason most people give off a negative response is because they are deep down jealous or want to make changes in there own life but don’t know where to start, so they will do everything in there power to stop your joy. Yea it can also be that they may not think your choice is a good one, but at any given time someone comes to you with a positive change they feel will come to there life, should be embraced. You should give them some type of positive light, not bring them down. Family is the worst at being negative. Mainly because they are around when your UP and when your DOWN. They saw how it was when you was down, now you have a plan of success, and to them you have to do it there way, and whatever you was thinking is wrong. Can they truly feel what you feel? No! I tell my kids all the time. No one else can live your life. You have to stand tall and alone sometime.

 

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There is always somebody waiting on you to fall. No matter what. At the same time technically we all have to live this way. Even in relationships. When I say relationships that can be your job, relationships with friends and also when conducting business. You have to make sure you have your own back 1st, before you place trust in someone else to have over your energy. Your power. You have to make sure you can handle whatever may be thrown at you. A lot of things believe it or not can break a person.

I make sure that when in any relationship, I try to be there for that person, and cheer them on. I have very few people that I can call a friend, because trust for me is a powerful energy source. When my parents passed in 2010, so many things came out about family, and people my parents called friends. I don’t allow any situation to block me out, or shut me down, but best believe I got all eyes on you :0) I say that with a smile. I keep moving forward. Don’t put energy somewhere that will draw negative energy.
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There is only one you, so be YOU and live your life. We all want to be happy, and what is one thing that makes everybody happy MONEY, so I say go make some and be happy. #Mytruth  

 

 

 

 

Got Milk?

Walking into the room, not knowing what Pandora’s box will hold, I anticipate each step. Our eyes meet burning with passion, neither wanted to turn away. Your approach left me stuck as if I was seduced. A passionate bite on the lips told me there was more to this ride. He said ” What are you drinking?” To my response “Got Milk”? 

 

 

 

 

A piece of MyTruth #BeInspired

Sometimes when you put your mind to do something that you really want to do, a part of you always wants to hold you back. Why is that? Mytruth (pause n think) is it more than just fear? Why do the average person put so much pressure on there self? Every day you are faced with new trials, situations. Yet we still get upset by the outcome or how it may turn out if it does not go in our favor. At least the first time around. Carowinds Fun 7and8th grade band Chorus Orchestra 025

Stress is a beast, and knows how to destroy if one allows. So why stress out during a certain situation? Only because it is in our human DNA to impress and always look good in the eye of the next. I have to catch myself at times, especially with being a mother.

Sometimes I feel as if I am not doing enough when it comes to my kids. Of course as parents you always want to give your kids more than what you had growing up, so yes parenting is and can be stressful. They are priority #1. So making sure all there needs are met will put a lot of pressure on you. Keep in mind that we are not robots, and we will and I say this as softly as possible (excuse my french) Fuck up some things along the way and that is fine, because we are learning and teaching each other.

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That is what life is all about. Each one teach one. So I try not to stress out (It still happens) but I know that I am human and shit will happen along the way. I just have to suck it up, and move on. Situations will occur, if they don’t, then what are we doing? Why are we living? Even the riches man has issues, but he sure ain’t gonna let that stop the next move. His next step is always a way to make the situation work in his favor. Take a bow and just keep living life. Make choices that will bring a bounty of gold for generations to come. Remember you can control the outcome, with how you put your energy out in the universe. #My Truth 

Do you want to touch?

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Sitting waiting on your call, I can only imagine what may happen if you was truly here. Music playin, candles lit, and you and me to create a new love scene. The passion from me and you, makes me gasp at the thought of us connecting. Not knowing how you may tame me, the sight of your strong third arm has my body pulsating all over, and you propose the question… Do you want to touch?

 

I get so weak in the knees, I can hardly speak.
I lose all control and something takes over me.
In a daze and it’s so amazing, it’s not a phase.
I want you to stay with me, by my side I swallow my pride, your love is so sweet it knocks me right off of my feet. Can’t explain why your loving makes me so weak.
SWV- Weak

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Do you know cooking?

Cooking for me is a comfort passion. I never really understood how important cooking was until my parents passed away. My mom passed away in Sep, and thanksgiving as we all know is right around the corner. My dad and mom would combo team all the big things. You know: Turkey, Ham, Candy Yams, Stuffing…etc. So 2010 was a different year as we knew it for the wigfall ‘s. I took on the cooking for that year, and my dad was happy.
I knew how to cook a little, because I have a family of my own, and you know, you need to be able to cook a good wholesome meal. You can ask my husband. My cooking is definitely one of many reasons why he is still my husband ;0)

Now a select few in my household does not eat pork and or red meat. I also have my elderly grandma that got to eat too, and she also has a list of select items she can not eat. Grandma sneaky though, she will try it and pray all is well. She just want a taste.

You may be wondering well what in the ham is her point. Why is she talking about cooking? Mytruth cooking is a way to bring people together. Cooking is a staple point of all relationships. Shh everybody got to eat.

Look at your local food banks and community churches that is hosting a food drive or a fish fry to bring people together and share love through cooking. How bout when you with your crew just hanging and chillen. Laughing and talking bout things no one around you may even understand. Food is definitely in the picture some where.
Rather you chewing on some wings, my favorite ;0) or eating a gourmet meal with all the fixings. Cherish the people around you at that time. Make the most of it. Live Love Food, #MyTruth.

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Pressure and Release

As he pushes back and forth, in and out leaving a mark that only she holds. He vowed to love and cherish every part of her. With a steady hand, he caresses her leg applying gentle kisses on her neck and ear. She can no more contain her self, so she releases a passionate scream while releasing gentle waves of her into him. A passion of love, through spirit and body. No one knows how it will end until the release. #Mytruth 

Nightly Kiss

I wanna be with you, (got to be with you) need to be with you, 
They see that we did that (yes)
Its so true that (yes)
We’ve been through it (yes)
We got real sh$$ (yes)
See baby we been too strong for too long (and I can’t be without you baby) …
Mary J. Blige- Be Without You

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

To conform or not to conform. That is the ?

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C • O• N• F•O•R•M-  Behave according to socially acceptable conventions or standards.

 

As a society, life as most see it, if you don’t do it this way, it will not work that way, and vice versa. Growing up as a child, you hear your parents say “Go to school and get good grades, so as you grow, you will become successful and get married have kids….. Yea the good life right??? Well shh it just does not work that way most of the time.

Mytruth some people fall short of the top. You know, where they want to be. I see it everyday. On t.v, at the grocery store, or even in my own relationships. We go about this day to day life to get to the top. To be seen, but are you moving in your direction? Or are you conforming?

When I say this, its not to make you feel as if working your 9-5, being in that day to day routine is not how life should be. I am a firm believer of the next getting there money and banking all at the same time, but that day to day soon becomes a reality for most of society.       recharge

There are life choices to be made, and your decision can be your next big blessin or delay. Choosing to just change your day to day can shift change a lot of relationships, families. They may not understand your dramatic move, because it’s not what is in your life course that they foresee for you. You refuse to conform.

This life we hold should be an example of knowing that, sometimes you just have to step out on faith and watch God work. Sometime we may not understand what’s going on, but with prayer confidence amd and a good village surrounding it will be ok. Know your truth, not what society seeks you to be. #Mytruth

Do you have me time? #MyTime

 

I need some me time not some you and some I just some she time, oh ooh
I need some she time, not some him and some her just some free time, oh ooh
I wanna run with my girls hit the club, hit the mall get my nails done and hair done
Spend a day at the spa, boy you ain’t got to worry, there ain’t nothing going on
I need some me time and that’s all, and that’s all- “Heather Headley- Me Time

 

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Dealing with everyday stresses of the world can have you feeling like you don’t even have time to close your eyes for 2.5 seconds. The kids, your husband and or family can be the numero uno of draining you out. Just a day a go, I finally took some me time. Time for myself. Your Me time is whatever keeps you cool ,calm, collective. Helps you to stay sane in your right mind. Rather you enjoy shopping, or a spa date, walking through your neighborhood park, or turnin up at that next party or concert you wanted to attend. That is your time. Your Truth. I rarely take time for my self. Like personal time. I hear people say all the time, “Carlisa you better take some time for your self” and my all time response-  “I will”. Well after reschedule after reschedule, I went to see the doctor. If you know me personally well then you already know. I tend to procrastinate on things that I feel can wait. Being a caretaker for an elderly person can be very demanding, and when I stepped in to care for my grandma, my mommy mom, after the passing of my mom in 2010, I started to feel the stress and woes of being a caretaker, mother and wife.

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My mom although at that time, grandma could still drive and do normal everyday things for her self, even take her pills. She did everything for grandma. She made her feel like a queen. Food was prepared, house was clean, clothes wash. etc. Even while still pleasing her husband of 29 years, 4 kids and 2 grand kids. My mom was a trooper. So sadly when mommy pass it was almost expected that grandma would need extra care, assistance especially with her baby girl passing away. After a few months grandma was hospitalized with water around her heart and she even fell a few times. This resulted in her staying in a nursing home for a month, but released to home care, with assistance from nurses, and physical therapist coming to the house. My husband, brothers, sister and kids had to step it up. Grandma needed round the clock assistance. Just like having another child. We did what we had to do.

Me Time

Mytruth, I felt as if I was becoming my mom. Not like that was a bad thing, it’s just she never put her self first. She was always making sure everyone was ok, and not ensuring she was ok. So I over time felt as if I was starting that same trend. Caring for love ones, rushing them to doctor appointments, cooking, cleaning….you get my drift, and still not one time saying ok Carlisa what about you? Going to the doctor office was definitely a Me time moment. It felt good to sit down with my physician, and she say to me ok carlisa how are you? Is there anything I need to know? I know this may sound corny, but of all places I was happy to go to the doctor? Yes, because I know that my health, body, mind, and spirit is doing good. My husband bless his heart, hears all my issues ( Love HIM;) ) and him knowing that I am ok brings peace to my mind and his. And knowing I will have more conversations of Mytruth is everything. Life is short we hear it all the time. Make sure you take some time out for YOU. Have your Me Time. #Mytruth 

My Black IS…Beautiful

While on my come up, I never saw myself to be a beautiful black girl. I did not think MY BLACK was beautiful. Now do not get it twisted,  I loved being black, but not so much a dark skinned black girl.

 

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For some reason back in my youngin days, Mytruth I felt as if, if you was not light skinned and or had some hair on your head (couple of inches close to the shoulder) you was not seen. To me your hair is like your crown. Answer this? When you get a fresh hair do, what is the first thing you want to do after your hair is done regardless sometimes what you have on? :0) take a PICTURE.

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Now I knew I was a beautiful girl. I just did not understand why I felt as if I was not beautiful with the skin, hair, beauty I was in. Now before you think I was just a bitter  girl,  please continue reading.   I do not want you to feel no sadness, just hear Mytruth 🙂 My dad would take me to his lady friends and or family members to do my hair. I had it all from singles, cornrow like black girl (inside joke, My Von would understand 😉 and of course my favorite, that HOT HOT press out. Hot comb I should say. Until that one day I told my dad I wanted a relaxer. OMG why did I do that to myself. Now the relaxer, was  like the suga back in the day.

Everybody was going straight 🙂 You could find a relaxer like Motions, and or Just for me (in my singing voice, y’all member that song 🙂 ), in the hair salons, your momma kitchen or living room. That’s when boxed perms was the suga. Well my 1st relaxer was completed in a kitchen. Now me as a little girl assumed she knew what the ham she was doing but ahh no. I was wrong. At some point after she puts the relaxer in my hair, she puts me under a hair dryer. She told me I would sit for 5 min and then she would wash you my hair. It all sounded right. Well long story short it burned most of my hair out my head. No one really knows this story except close family and of course my husband. As I got older I always struggled with my hair. I remember one time while I was in middle school, I put so much grease in my hair, that everyone thought it was a jerry curl. I thank God for my Von. That day she did my hair for the 1st time changed my whole world of hair. I felt gorgeous. She was in hair school that year, so I was lucky to be her hair style tester. Till this day, My Von still does my hair. 

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So look, regardless of complexion, hair, tall, short, dark, light. We have to know we are beautiful. As a little girl growing up in the late 80 into the 90’s, there was no internet, and or cell phones. So with the way this internet generation is set up, we have to love on all our little black girls. Tell them they are beautiful in there natural short kinky curly hair. Dark skinned, Coco brown, Caramel skin. All little girls of all complexions should know there worth and beauty at an early age, so as they age, they age to be beautiful inside and out, and know there worth regardless of how they look. BBB is what my sister, Von and I would end in our text message or phone conversation. Blessed, Black, Beautiful #Mytruth 

 

 

Let’s talk about what? #Relationship

When in a relationship of any type: married, engaged, boyfriend/girlfriend, friends with benefits. A lot of different discussions will come about. You will have to make some very tough decisions. Rather it be finances, family, children drama (baby momma-daddy) or even sex. Regardless be prepared for whatever. This will surly test your character. Some couples and be honest with yourself, can make a relationship look like butta. Honestly to me speaking on My Truth of the matter, no relationship is great. There will be ups and downs, issue after issue. But when in that relationship you and your partner have to know how to beat the punches.

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Him and I ( yes my him♥♥♥) have been together now for 13 years (married 5). We have seen everything from job loss, Death of love ones, and family drama to name a few. Being together this long has truly showed us how to love and appreciate each other for who they are, and not just what they can bring to the table. When we got together, in my head, all I could thinks was he is just like the rest. Plus at the time I was already in a relationship that was going through the motion, (issues) so I was not interested in anyone else but curious of him 🙂 Any new thing when bad things are going on will have you floating with the stars. It will take your mind away. You can literally get caught up. After just a few weeks  of talking and hanging out, we had SEX. Now I did not plan on it there was no discussion about it, it just happened.

Sex really was not discussed at the beginning of the relationship, so when it happened I was like ok what now? I knew that it was not right, but what is right at this point. We already had been talking, and I felt like it was natural how it all happened. Eventually we moved into a relationship status and here we are today.

This one topic be it not is still maybe the #1 topic in our marriage other than finances. Being together this long you have to find ways to keep it fresh. At times I may not be in the mood, but my husband is always ready ;0) Being everything under the sun for my husband and kids along with caring for my grandmother definitely places a strain on me, and I just don’t want to be bothered at times, but I also know I don’t want no one else pleasing My Him so I push through. My husband understands that I am busy and have a lot going on, but when it comes to his time he is very vocal. 😉

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Regardless of the subject of discussion. Communication is the key. After all that me and my husband have been through, if we did not talk to each other, or try to understand what is going on with the other, All ham will break loose. There has been times we went to sleep upset with each other, and no one can see eye to eye. We think that maybe if I had said it this way, or if he knew this then we… In life to grow to the next level, there will be trials to test you. It is up to you if you pass the test.

Any couple who looks perfect on the outside, just has a good handle on there unity. There relationship goals are tight, and no one can say or do anything to break that bond. You have to know coming into any relationship there will be things that will need to be discussed, and if you are not able to understand, identify, and resolve the issue at hand. You will have a hard time in any relationship. Until next time. #Mytruth

To Know…Who I am

As a little girl I could always remember that I was going to be someone awesome. I always was outspoken, kept a smile on my face and ready to sing a tune late night for a group of my dad and mom friends. I grew up not always having the finer things in life, the silver spoon per say, but I was raised to appreciate and value all that was given to me. I was blessed to have a mom and dad in one house. It was not always peaches and cream but my dads love for my mom was strong like no other. I have 2 brothers and 1 sister. When our mother passed away, we grew closer to each other. We knew that our Bond for each other was stronger because our mom was our pillar. Our Shield, and now she was gone. That lost is was and still is a great mountain to climb. Our mother was everything you could ask for in a listener, comforter, protector a friend. My siblings love and strength was helping our dad continue on life without his best friend. Our parents was married for 29yrs when mommy passed away. My dad 3 months after our moms passing, passed away with a broken heart. 3 months to the date and time of our mother passing, our father went to join her in paradise. I remember the night before my dads stroke, he gave me a call. He was watching his favorite basketball team play (Lakers) and enjoying his beverage. We laughed and joked and said our I love U’s before disconnecting the call.  I appreciate them both more then I was able to tell them in person here on earth. My daughter is 15 and I have an 11 year old son. My husband and I have been together for 13 years and married for 5. I thank God everyday for him. He keeps me align to my truth and to know your truth is to know your own. Conversations with Carlisa will be uplifting, encouraging, funny, sad. Real life truth. My Truth. I am so excited to start blogging with you and connecting with you. I hope I am able to inspire you to be your best you can be. While I encourage you, I hope you will encourage me. We shall grow together. Make sure to share, like and leave a comment below. I appreciate your reading. #Mytruth