When in a relationship of any type: married, engaged, boyfriend/girlfriend, friends with benefits. A lot of different discussions will come about. You will have to make some very tough decisions. Rather it be finances, family, children drama (baby momma-daddy) or even sex. Regardless be prepared for whatever. This will surly test your character. Some couples and be honest with yourself, can make a relationship look like butta. Honestly to me speaking on My Truth of the matter, no relationship is great. There will be ups and downs, issue after issue. But when in that relationship you and your partner have to know how to beat the punches.
Him and I ( yes my him♥♥♥) have been together now for 13 years (married 5). We have seen everything from job loss, Death of love ones, and family drama to name a few. Being together this long has truly showed us how to love and appreciate each other for who they are, and not just what they can bring to the table. When we got together, in my head, all I could thinks was he is just like the rest. Plus at the time I was already in a relationship that was going through the motion, (issues) so I was not interested in anyone else but curious of him 🙂 Any new thing when bad things are going on will have you floating with the stars. It will take your mind away. You can literally get caught up. After just a few weeks of talking and hanging out, we had SEX. Now I did not plan on it there was no discussion about it, it just happened.
Sex really was not discussed at the beginning of the relationship, so when it happened I was like ok what now? I knew that it was not right, but what is right at this point. We already had been talking, and I felt like it was natural how it all happened. Eventually we moved into a relationship status and here we are today.
This one topic be it not is still maybe the #1 topic in our marriage other than finances. Being together this long you have to find ways to keep it fresh. At times I may not be in the mood, but my husband is always ready ;0) Being everything under the sun for my husband and kids along with caring for my grandmother definitely places a strain on me, and I just don’t want to be bothered at times, but I also know I don’t want no one else pleasing My Him so I push through. My husband understands that I am busy and have a lot going on, but when it comes to his time he is very vocal. 😉
Regardless of the subject of discussion. Communication is the key. After all that me and my husband have been through, if we did not talk to each other, or try to understand what is going on with the other, All ham will break loose. There has been times we went to sleep upset with each other, and no one can see eye to eye. We think that maybe if I had said it this way, or if he knew this then we… In life to grow to the next level, there will be trials to test you. It is up to you if you pass the test.
Any couple who looks perfect on the outside, just has a good handle on there unity. There relationship goals are tight, and no one can say or do anything to break that bond. You have to know coming into any relationship there will be things that will need to be discussed, and if you are not able to understand, identify, and resolve the issue at hand. You will have a hard time in any relationship. Until next time. #Mytruth