Do you have me time? #MyTime

 

I need some me time not some you and some I just some she time, oh ooh
I need some she time, not some him and some her just some free time, oh ooh
I wanna run with my girls hit the club, hit the mall get my nails done and hair done
Spend a day at the spa, boy you ain’t got to worry, there ain’t nothing going on
I need some me time and that’s all, and that’s all- “Heather Headley- Me Time

 

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Dealing with everyday stresses of the world can have you feeling like you don’t even have time to close your eyes for 2.5 seconds. The kids, your husband and or family can be the numero uno of draining you out. Just a day a go, I finally took some me time. Time for myself. Your Me time is whatever keeps you cool ,calm, collective. Helps you to stay sane in your right mind. Rather you enjoy shopping, or a spa date, walking through your neighborhood park, or turnin up at that next party or concert you wanted to attend. That is your time. Your Truth. I rarely take time for my self. Like personal time. I hear people say all the time, “Carlisa you better take some time for your self” and my all time response-  “I will”. Well after reschedule after reschedule, I went to see the doctor. If you know me personally well then you already know. I tend to procrastinate on things that I feel can wait. Being a caretaker for an elderly person can be very demanding, and when I stepped in to care for my grandma, my mommy mom, after the passing of my mom in 2010, I started to feel the stress and woes of being a caretaker, mother and wife.

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My mom although at that time, grandma could still drive and do normal everyday things for her self, even take her pills. She did everything for grandma. She made her feel like a queen. Food was prepared, house was clean, clothes wash. etc. Even while still pleasing her husband of 29 years, 4 kids and 2 grand kids. My mom was a trooper. So sadly when mommy pass it was almost expected that grandma would need extra care, assistance especially with her baby girl passing away. After a few months grandma was hospitalized with water around her heart and she even fell a few times. This resulted in her staying in a nursing home for a month, but released to home care, with assistance from nurses, and physical therapist coming to the house. My husband, brothers, sister and kids had to step it up. Grandma needed round the clock assistance. Just like having another child. We did what we had to do.

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Mytruth, I felt as if I was becoming my mom. Not like that was a bad thing, it’s just she never put her self first. She was always making sure everyone was ok, and not ensuring she was ok. So I over time felt as if I was starting that same trend. Caring for love ones, rushing them to doctor appointments, cooking, cleaning….you get my drift, and still not one time saying ok Carlisa what about you? Going to the doctor office was definitely a Me time moment. It felt good to sit down with my physician, and she say to me ok carlisa how are you? Is there anything I need to know? I know this may sound corny, but of all places I was happy to go to the doctor? Yes, because I know that my health, body, mind, and spirit is doing good. My husband bless his heart, hears all my issues ( Love HIM;) ) and him knowing that I am ok brings peace to my mind and his. And knowing I will have more conversations of Mytruth is everything. Life is short we hear it all the time. Make sure you take some time out for YOU. Have your Me Time. #Mytruth 

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That’s my Sista! #GirlChat

Your man acting cra cra, the kids going fool, and you worked all day, but still got to cook, because fast food is not an option tonight. No matter what us ladies need a break. We do it all for our families. Definitely the bread and butta that keeps it all together. When it’s time for conversations with your girl friends let’s have #Girlchat. We can all use it, Mytruth we need it.

“Where my girls at, from the front to back, well is you feelin that, put one hand up, can you repeat that… 90’s R&B female group- 702 – “Where my girls at”

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With everything going on in our daily routines, we need to be able to call on someone other than our spouse (issue may be bout them ;0)) when we need to vent. We feel free to breathe, cry and laugh about our daily Truth. Every female has that one go to friend. She can talk to. Even if the conversation upsets her, she will listen to your truth and take it with understanding, and try to give you the best advice possible. She is not judge mental, and should not make you feel lower then you may already feel. She should uplift and encourage you, even if this is your 15th time taking that fool back. (There is always that one friend who cannot let go- #Nojudgement)

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I love to see a woman empower another woman, for her skills, class, education, beauty, and the list can go on and on. Remember not all ladies are around an encouraging female, and those ladies may not understand there beauty, worth or class. Ladies who may need that extra daily push, to know someone is in there corner regardless of there current situation or past. That’s why I always try to listen first. You never know what someone is going through until you listen to them. That’s why I love to see woman empowerment of any kind.

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#Girlchat, good conversation with a beverage of choice, and a juicy hot topic. We usually already know when our friend needs to talk. Ladies can converse in good and bad situations. By the time you are done talkin, you will have your answer, and know what to do next, and regardless of your decision, your girl friend will be ready for the next girl chat. That next topic to get U through whatever it may be. #Mytruth

My Black IS…Beautiful

While on my come up, I never saw myself to be a beautiful black girl. I did not think MY BLACK was beautiful. Now do not get it twisted,  I loved being black, but not so much a dark skinned black girl.

 

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For some reason back in my youngin days, Mytruth I felt as if, if you was not light skinned and or had some hair on your head (couple of inches close to the shoulder) you was not seen. To me your hair is like your crown. Answer this? When you get a fresh hair do, what is the first thing you want to do after your hair is done regardless sometimes what you have on? :0) take a PICTURE.

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Now I knew I was a beautiful girl. I just did not understand why I felt as if I was not beautiful with the skin, hair, beauty I was in. Now before you think I was just a bitter  girl,  please continue reading.   I do not want you to feel no sadness, just hear Mytruth 🙂 My dad would take me to his lady friends and or family members to do my hair. I had it all from singles, cornrow like black girl (inside joke, My Von would understand 😉 and of course my favorite, that HOT HOT press out. Hot comb I should say. Until that one day I told my dad I wanted a relaxer. OMG why did I do that to myself. Now the relaxer, was  like the suga back in the day.

Everybody was going straight 🙂 You could find a relaxer like Motions, and or Just for me (in my singing voice, y’all member that song 🙂 ), in the hair salons, your momma kitchen or living room. That’s when boxed perms was the suga. Well my 1st relaxer was completed in a kitchen. Now me as a little girl assumed she knew what the ham she was doing but ahh no. I was wrong. At some point after she puts the relaxer in my hair, she puts me under a hair dryer. She told me I would sit for 5 min and then she would wash you my hair. It all sounded right. Well long story short it burned most of my hair out my head. No one really knows this story except close family and of course my husband. As I got older I always struggled with my hair. I remember one time while I was in middle school, I put so much grease in my hair, that everyone thought it was a jerry curl. I thank God for my Von. That day she did my hair for the 1st time changed my whole world of hair. I felt gorgeous. She was in hair school that year, so I was lucky to be her hair style tester. Till this day, My Von still does my hair. 

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So look, regardless of complexion, hair, tall, short, dark, light. We have to know we are beautiful. As a little girl growing up in the late 80 into the 90’s, there was no internet, and or cell phones. So with the way this internet generation is set up, we have to love on all our little black girls. Tell them they are beautiful in there natural short kinky curly hair. Dark skinned, Coco brown, Caramel skin. All little girls of all complexions should know there worth and beauty at an early age, so as they age, they age to be beautiful inside and out, and know there worth regardless of how they look. BBB is what my sister, Von and I would end in our text message or phone conversation. Blessed, Black, Beautiful #Mytruth 

 

 

Let’s talk about what? #Relationship

When in a relationship of any type: married, engaged, boyfriend/girlfriend, friends with benefits. A lot of different discussions will come about. You will have to make some very tough decisions. Rather it be finances, family, children drama (baby momma-daddy) or even sex. Regardless be prepared for whatever. This will surly test your character. Some couples and be honest with yourself, can make a relationship look like butta. Honestly to me speaking on My Truth of the matter, no relationship is great. There will be ups and downs, issue after issue. But when in that relationship you and your partner have to know how to beat the punches.

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Him and I ( yes my him♥♥♥) have been together now for 13 years (married 5). We have seen everything from job loss, Death of love ones, and family drama to name a few. Being together this long has truly showed us how to love and appreciate each other for who they are, and not just what they can bring to the table. When we got together, in my head, all I could thinks was he is just like the rest. Plus at the time I was already in a relationship that was going through the motion, (issues) so I was not interested in anyone else but curious of him 🙂 Any new thing when bad things are going on will have you floating with the stars. It will take your mind away. You can literally get caught up. After just a few weeks  of talking and hanging out, we had SEX. Now I did not plan on it there was no discussion about it, it just happened.

Sex really was not discussed at the beginning of the relationship, so when it happened I was like ok what now? I knew that it was not right, but what is right at this point. We already had been talking, and I felt like it was natural how it all happened. Eventually we moved into a relationship status and here we are today.

This one topic be it not is still maybe the #1 topic in our marriage other than finances. Being together this long you have to find ways to keep it fresh. At times I may not be in the mood, but my husband is always ready ;0) Being everything under the sun for my husband and kids along with caring for my grandmother definitely places a strain on me, and I just don’t want to be bothered at times, but I also know I don’t want no one else pleasing My Him so I push through. My husband understands that I am busy and have a lot going on, but when it comes to his time he is very vocal. 😉

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Regardless of the subject of discussion. Communication is the key. After all that me and my husband have been through, if we did not talk to each other, or try to understand what is going on with the other, All ham will break loose. There has been times we went to sleep upset with each other, and no one can see eye to eye. We think that maybe if I had said it this way, or if he knew this then we… In life to grow to the next level, there will be trials to test you. It is up to you if you pass the test.

Any couple who looks perfect on the outside, just has a good handle on there unity. There relationship goals are tight, and no one can say or do anything to break that bond. You have to know coming into any relationship there will be things that will need to be discussed, and if you are not able to understand, identify, and resolve the issue at hand. You will have a hard time in any relationship. Until next time. #Mytruth

To Know…Who I am

As a little girl I could always remember that I was going to be someone awesome. I always was outspoken, kept a smile on my face and ready to sing a tune late night for a group of my dad and mom friends. I grew up not always having the finer things in life, the silver spoon per say, but I was raised to appreciate and value all that was given to me. I was blessed to have a mom and dad in one house. It was not always peaches and cream but my dads love for my mom was strong like no other. I have 2 brothers and 1 sister. When our mother passed away, we grew closer to each other. We knew that our Bond for each other was stronger because our mom was our pillar. Our Shield, and now she was gone. That lost is was and still is a great mountain to climb. Our mother was everything you could ask for in a listener, comforter, protector a friend. My siblings love and strength was helping our dad continue on life without his best friend. Our parents was married for 29yrs when mommy passed away. My dad 3 months after our moms passing, passed away with a broken heart. 3 months to the date and time of our mother passing, our father went to join her in paradise. I remember the night before my dads stroke, he gave me a call. He was watching his favorite basketball team play (Lakers) and enjoying his beverage. We laughed and joked and said our I love U’s before disconnecting the call.  I appreciate them both more then I was able to tell them in person here on earth. My daughter is 15 and I have an 11 year old son. My husband and I have been together for 13 years and married for 5. I thank God everyday for him. He keeps me align to my truth and to know your truth is to know your own. Conversations with Carlisa will be uplifting, encouraging, funny, sad. Real life truth. My Truth. I am so excited to start blogging with you and connecting with you. I hope I am able to inspire you to be your best you can be. While I encourage you, I hope you will encourage me. We shall grow together. Make sure to share, like and leave a comment below. I appreciate your reading. #Mytruth