Why is it in life, for most is half full? Now when I say half full, Mytruth things are moving along to quickly or not quickly enough. I remember a time when it took forever and a month for Christmas to get here, now it seems like you can blink and we are saying HAPPY NEW YEAR, all over again.
As you get older, life moves a lot quicker. You want it to slow down because there may still be some things you need to accomplish. As a child all you want to do is grow up and explore life on your terms. Act out on all your dreams and try to accomplish them. Name one thing that you knew when you was younger that you was going to accomplish once you are old enough? I’ll wait…. For most to be successful and have a better life than what your parents possibly gave you.
My parents did there best to raise me and my siblings. Most would say that, but there was always a part of me that said. when I get older I will handle that situation differently. I will make sure that my kids will not have to go through what I had too.
Life really is all you make it. Or is it? Me personally, I still see life as half full. My life in my 30’s is not what I expected. When I was 25 before my mom passed away then shortly after my dad, I thought for sure I would have a successful business and be a almost millionaire. Now that I am in my 30’s, I know for sure there is still so much to Carlisa that has not been heard or seen. I surprise my self everyday. With new ideas and future endeavors. Although life for me is still half full, I plan on filling that glass soon. I know that there is more. Do you see more for yourself? That is something we can all ask our self everyday. Never stop growing. #MYtruth
When you are trying to do you, and your a wife, mother, sister, friend and maybe even a CEO. Shit can get tough. Just about everyone around you needs your attention. Trust me I know. As the older sister, but not the eldest sibling as a female and having nurturing ways, I want to help everyone around me do them, but am I doing me? Mytruth no, and not for a very long time. So I told myself for 2019 I would do things differently.
At least when it comes down to what I want to do for self. This year I plan on travelling to a state or city that I have never been, start a kick boxing class because this is something I always wanted to do, and finally use my birthday gift certificate from 2018 for a full body massage. Just to name a few. Back in my zone is just what it is. Focus on self and do more for self. Don’t get lost in what everyone else needs to do before you check YOU. You only get one life. #MyTruth
Leaving my 9-5 after ten years on the job, was just one of many hard life choices I had to make. My dad always told me to keep a job. So when I put my two weeks in I questioned myself over and over. Was this the right thing to do? What will my next move be? How am I going to take care of things without a steady income? Like I said alot of thoughts. The one thing I knew for sure, my family needed me at that moment more then my 9-5, and I had to do what I had to do.
Once it was official and coming up to my last day on the job, I was in denial. I started to doubt what I was doing, and made it seem as if I needed this 9-5 to continue to have a steady income. In some ways this is so very true, however I had to believe that what I was doing was a start to me getting things in order (routine) with my family, and also so that I can push myself further preparing for my role as an entrepreneur, along with already being a caretaker, mother, and wife.
This journey as an aspiring entrepreneur is not easy. Of course I never said it would be easy. There are so many moments where I have said Fuck this, let me go back to a 9 to 5. I can’t do this. My resume is still up and available on most common work sites. I have had several job offers, and opportunities to work, however with the assurance and trust of my husband that I do not need to go back to work, I have turned them all down. That helped ease my guilt of not providing after my nut shell started to run low.
I allowed family and friends to say things to me and make me feel as if what I did was very stupid, and I needed to go back to work, like an employee. In ways I felt that what everyone was saying was true. Then I started reading more and focusing on MY mental health. I needed to go back to the drawing board. If I did not want to have an employer I needed to successfully employ myself. Become self made.I knew with all the success over the past 10 years with my former employer, that I was going to be alright. Anything I put my hands on becomes my master piece. It was just I wanted my success now and not later. I knew I would have to apply myself more to achieve the level of success I want. I allow still, most life issues to determine what my next move will be. I have to release my mind from doubt and continue to TRUST. My Truth always believe in YOU. Nobody else will feed you and uplift you like you should and can. Yes positive people is always an up in your life, but self love is always the best love, and if you don’t have self love how can you love on anybody else. Take a minute and marinate on that. #My Truth
You just walked in a room full of people. Some may or may not know who you are. But to the ones who may not, when they see you what vibe would they read off you? Are you one to stir up the pot (start drama) or are you more of the reserved type? Keep to your self. Either way everybody is different. Unique in there own way. Identical and fraternal twins still have something about them that is not the same as there sibling. Mytruth your spirit can truly give off a vibe, that can make people see you as a person of interest, or a person of distance.
Now a days with the way this world is spinning, you really don’t know who to trust, but our humanistic instincts will kick in leaving us vulnerable to new relationships. It’s like that co worker at work that may be in the break room at the same time you are, and you engage in conversation.
You never know who you will meet or come in contact with. So always be on point. Now don’t be fake about it. Be you and if you are one to stir the pot then make sure you are making some dollars while you being in drama. It ain’t no need to be talking about the next if you are not getting a check. So when you walk in a room, be the one who everyone looks at and say to themselves who is that, oh I need to know her. Oh she look pretty cool. Like I said you never know who you may meet or come in contact with. #MyTruth
How is that when you decide to do something different in your life, and you may have shared the possible change with your mom, dad, or even your closest friend there reaction is not what you was expecting. The response most people give off can be a negative response, and for someone going through a life changing situation that is the last thing they want to hear or see.
Mytruth, the only reason most people give off a negative response is because they are deep down jealous or want to make changes in there own life but don’t know where to start, so they will do everything in there power to stop your joy. Yea it can also be that they may not think your choice is a good one, but at any given time someone comes to you with a positive change they feel will come to there life, should be embraced. You should give them some type of positive light, not bring them down. Family is the worst at being negative. Mainly because they are around when your UP and when your DOWN. They saw how it was when you was down, now you have a plan of success, and to them you have to do it there way, and whatever you was thinking is wrong. Can they truly feel what you feel? No! I tell my kids all the time. No one else can live your life. You have to stand tall and alone sometime.
There is always somebody waiting on you to fall. No matter what. At the same time technically we all have to live this way. Even in relationships. When I say relationships that can be your job, relationships with friends and also when conducting business. You have to make sure you have your own back 1st, before you place trust in someone else to have over your energy. Your power. You have to make sure you can handle whatever may be thrown at you. A lot of things believe it or not can break a person.
I make sure that when in any relationship, I try to be there for that person, and cheer them on. I have very few people that I can call a friend, because trust for me is a powerful energy source. When my parents passed in 2010, so many things came out about family, and people my parents called friends. I don’t allow any situation to block me out, or shut me down, but best believe I got all eyes on you :0) I say that with a smile. I keep moving forward. Don’t put energy somewhere that will draw negative energy.
There is only one you, so be YOU and live your life. We all want to be happy, and what is one thing that makes everybody happy MONEY, so I say go make some and be happy. #Mytruth
Cooking for me is a comfort passion. I never really understood how important cooking was until my parents passed away. My mom passed away in Sep, and thanksgiving as we all know is right around the corner. My dad and mom would combo team all the big things. You know: Turkey, Ham, Candy Yams, Stuffing…etc. So 2010 was a different year as we knew it for the wigfall ‘s. I took on the cooking for that year, and my dad was happy.
I knew how to cook a little, because I have a family of my own, and you know, you need to be able to cook a good wholesome meal. You can ask my husband. My cooking is definitely one of many reasons why he is still my husband ;0)
Now a select few in my household does not eat pork and or red meat. I also have my elderly grandma that got to eat too, and she also has a list of select items she can not eat. Grandma sneaky though, she will try it and pray all is well. She just want a taste.
You may be wondering well what in the ham is her point. Why is she talking about cooking? Mytruth cooking is a way to bring people together. Cooking is a staple point of all relationships. Shh everybody got to eat.
Look at your local food banks and community churches that is hosting a food drive or a fish fry to bring people together and share love through cooking. How bout when you with your crew just hanging and chillen. Laughing and talking bout things no one around you may even understand. Food is definitely in the picture some where.
Rather you chewing on some wings, my favorite ;0) or eating a gourmet meal with all the fixings. Cherish the people around you at that time. Make the most of it. Live Love Food, #MyTruth.
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C • O• N• F•O•R•M- Behave according to socially acceptable conventions or standards.
As a society, life as most see it, if you don’t do it this way, it will not work that way, and vice versa. Growing up as a child, you hear your parents say “Go to school and get good grades, so as you grow, you will become successful and get married have kids….. Yea the good life right??? Well shh it just does not work that way most of the time.
Mytruth some people fall short of the top. You know, where they want to be. I see it everyday. On t.v, at the grocery store, or even in my own relationships. We go about this day to day life to get to the top. To be seen, but are you moving in your direction? Or are you conforming?
When I say this, its not to make you feel as if working your 9-5, being in that day to day routine is not how life should be. I am a firm believer of the next getting there money and banking all at the same time, but that day to day soon becomes a reality for most of society.
There are life choices to be made, and your decision can be your next big blessin or delay. Choosing to just change your day to day can shift change a lot of relationships, families. They may not understand your dramatic move, because it’s not what is in your life course that they foresee for you. You refuse to conform.
This life we hold should be an example of knowing that, sometimes you just have to step out on faith and watch God work. Sometime we may not understand what’s going on, but with prayer confidence amd and a good village surrounding it will be ok. Know your truth, not what society seeks you to be. #Mytruth