Time for Self Reflection.

Time, Money, and Air. They all have something in common and is what everybody wants. More Time, More Money, More Air. If you had more time, what would you do? If you had more money, what would you do? And if you know your air supply would never run low and you can live forever, what would you do??? Time for self reflection. #MyTruth, nothing.

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Nothing because if I’m unable to accomplish my goals with the time money, and air available to me now, what is a little extra going to do? Well, with a little more time I may not find myself procrastinating. More money….Well you think about that, and with more air I can out live my kids kids kids!!! And see there kids have kids. 

So maybe every once in a while,    

Allow yourself to …………Self Reflect.

So I tell myself what more in this life do you want to accomplish with your Time, Money and the Air you breathe. We all want something. but if you allow TIME MONEY and AIR determine your GOALS, then just like all three will soon decease, you will too. What do you need to self reflect on? #MyTruth 

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You have something in your teeth!

Name a time when you was with someone, your sister or your close friend, and you was eating out, and afterwards you notice something was in their teeth. Do you tell them or let it ride?

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Mytruth telling someone something is in there teeth, is just as hard as telling someone some real personal information. you know your truth. But why is that? For me if something is in your teeth, nose, or even on your face it will take me a minute or two before I say something. I don’t know why, but it’s like a feeling of hesitation. I would feel more bad not saying something and someone else mentions it.

That’s how most people should be with there personal truth. Everybody on social media does not need to know everything. Once people see that view of you, unless its for a money bag they automatically judge you. This world is a mean place, and tough skin will get you through, but when you self inflict pain to your self that is even worse.

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I know things get hard. To be 33 years old, I have seen a lot for my age growing up. It surely was not a white picket fence, but some things I choose to keep between myself and the ones who know. Of course your story can be a life lesson for someone, but make sure it is at the right place and the right time to disclose. Make sure the message you are trying to spread is somehow going to help the next. That’s what life is to me. I don’t expect the same view for you, but I believe in that each one teach one. Live your life people. #Mytruth 

What does your vibe read?

You just walked in a room full of people. Some may or may not know who you are. But to the ones who may not, when they see you what vibe would they read off you? Are you one to stir up the pot (start drama) or are you more of the reserved type? Keep to your self. Either way everybody is different. Unique in there own way. Identical and fraternal twins still have something about them that is not the same as there sibling. Mytruth your spirit can truly give off a vibe, that can make people see you as a person of interest, or a person of distance.

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Now a days with the way this world is spinning, you really don’t know who to trust, but our humanistic instincts will kick in leaving us vulnerable to new relationships. It’s like that co worker at work that may be in the break room at the same time you are, and you engage in conversation.

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You never know who you will meet or come in contact with. So always be on point. Now don’t be fake about it. Be you and if you are one to stir the pot then make sure you are making some dollars while you being in drama. It ain’t no need to be talking about the next if you are not getting a check. So when you walk in a room, be the one who everyone looks at and say to themselves who is that, oh I need to know her. Oh she look pretty cool. Like I said you never know who you may meet or come in contact with. #MyTruth 

 

 

You did what? #Changes

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How is that when you decide to do something different in your life, and you may have shared the possible change with your mom, dad, or even your closest friend there reaction is not what you was expecting. The response most people give off can be a negative response, and for someone going through a life changing situation that is the last thing they want to hear or see.

 

Mytruth, the only reason most people give off a negative response is because they are deep down jealous or want to make changes in there own life but don’t know where to start, so they will do everything in there power to stop your joy. Yea it can also be that they may not think your choice is a good one, but at any given time someone comes to you with a positive change they feel will come to there life, should be embraced. You should give them some type of positive light, not bring them down. Family is the worst at being negative. Mainly because they are around when your UP and when your DOWN. They saw how it was when you was down, now you have a plan of success, and to them you have to do it there way, and whatever you was thinking is wrong. Can they truly feel what you feel? No! I tell my kids all the time. No one else can live your life. You have to stand tall and alone sometime.

 

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There is always somebody waiting on you to fall. No matter what. At the same time technically we all have to live this way. Even in relationships. When I say relationships that can be your job, relationships with friends and also when conducting business. You have to make sure you have your own back 1st, before you place trust in someone else to have over your energy. Your power. You have to make sure you can handle whatever may be thrown at you. A lot of things believe it or not can break a person.

I make sure that when in any relationship, I try to be there for that person, and cheer them on. I have very few people that I can call a friend, because trust for me is a powerful energy source. When my parents passed in 2010, so many things came out about family, and people my parents called friends. I don’t allow any situation to block me out, or shut me down, but best believe I got all eyes on you :0) I say that with a smile. I keep moving forward. Don’t put energy somewhere that will draw negative energy.
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There is only one you, so be YOU and live your life. We all want to be happy, and what is one thing that makes everybody happy MONEY, so I say go make some and be happy. #Mytruth  

 

 

 

 

Do you know cooking?

Cooking for me is a comfort passion. I never really understood how important cooking was until my parents passed away. My mom passed away in Sep, and thanksgiving as we all know is right around the corner. My dad and mom would combo team all the big things. You know: Turkey, Ham, Candy Yams, Stuffing…etc. So 2010 was a different year as we knew it for the wigfall ‘s. I took on the cooking for that year, and my dad was happy.
I knew how to cook a little, because I have a family of my own, and you know, you need to be able to cook a good wholesome meal. You can ask my husband. My cooking is definitely one of many reasons why he is still my husband ;0)

Now a select few in my household does not eat pork and or red meat. I also have my elderly grandma that got to eat too, and she also has a list of select items she can not eat. Grandma sneaky though, she will try it and pray all is well. She just want a taste.

You may be wondering well what in the ham is her point. Why is she talking about cooking? Mytruth cooking is a way to bring people together. Cooking is a staple point of all relationships. Shh everybody got to eat.

Look at your local food banks and community churches that is hosting a food drive or a fish fry to bring people together and share love through cooking. How bout when you with your crew just hanging and chillen. Laughing and talking bout things no one around you may even understand. Food is definitely in the picture some where.
Rather you chewing on some wings, my favorite ;0) or eating a gourmet meal with all the fixings. Cherish the people around you at that time. Make the most of it. Live Love Food, #MyTruth.

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Do you have me time? #MyTime

 

I need some me time not some you and some I just some she time, oh ooh
I need some she time, not some him and some her just some free time, oh ooh
I wanna run with my girls hit the club, hit the mall get my nails done and hair done
Spend a day at the spa, boy you ain’t got to worry, there ain’t nothing going on
I need some me time and that’s all, and that’s all- “Heather Headley- Me Time

 

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Dealing with everyday stresses of the world can have you feeling like you don’t even have time to close your eyes for 2.5 seconds. The kids, your husband and or family can be the numero uno of draining you out. Just a day a go, I finally took some me time. Time for myself. Your Me time is whatever keeps you cool ,calm, collective. Helps you to stay sane in your right mind. Rather you enjoy shopping, or a spa date, walking through your neighborhood park, or turnin up at that next party or concert you wanted to attend. That is your time. Your Truth. I rarely take time for my self. Like personal time. I hear people say all the time, “Carlisa you better take some time for your self” and my all time response-  “I will”. Well after reschedule after reschedule, I went to see the doctor. If you know me personally well then you already know. I tend to procrastinate on things that I feel can wait. Being a caretaker for an elderly person can be very demanding, and when I stepped in to care for my grandma, my mommy mom, after the passing of my mom in 2010, I started to feel the stress and woes of being a caretaker, mother and wife.

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My mom although at that time, grandma could still drive and do normal everyday things for her self, even take her pills. She did everything for grandma. She made her feel like a queen. Food was prepared, house was clean, clothes wash. etc. Even while still pleasing her husband of 29 years, 4 kids and 2 grand kids. My mom was a trooper. So sadly when mommy pass it was almost expected that grandma would need extra care, assistance especially with her baby girl passing away. After a few months grandma was hospitalized with water around her heart and she even fell a few times. This resulted in her staying in a nursing home for a month, but released to home care, with assistance from nurses, and physical therapist coming to the house. My husband, brothers, sister and kids had to step it up. Grandma needed round the clock assistance. Just like having another child. We did what we had to do.

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Mytruth, I felt as if I was becoming my mom. Not like that was a bad thing, it’s just she never put her self first. She was always making sure everyone was ok, and not ensuring she was ok. So I over time felt as if I was starting that same trend. Caring for love ones, rushing them to doctor appointments, cooking, cleaning….you get my drift, and still not one time saying ok Carlisa what about you? Going to the doctor office was definitely a Me time moment. It felt good to sit down with my physician, and she say to me ok carlisa how are you? Is there anything I need to know? I know this may sound corny, but of all places I was happy to go to the doctor? Yes, because I know that my health, body, mind, and spirit is doing good. My husband bless his heart, hears all my issues ( Love HIM;) ) and him knowing that I am ok brings peace to my mind and his. And knowing I will have more conversations of Mytruth is everything. Life is short we hear it all the time. Make sure you take some time out for YOU. Have your Me Time. #Mytruth