Let’s talk about what? #Relationship

When in a relationship of any type: married, engaged, boyfriend/girlfriend, friends with benefits. A lot of different discussions will come about. You will have to make some very tough decisions. Rather it be finances, family, children drama (baby momma-daddy) or even sex. Regardless be prepared for whatever. This will surly test your character. Some couples and be honest with yourself, can make a relationship look like butta. Honestly to me speaking on My Truth of the matter, no relationship is great. There will be ups and downs, issue after issue. But when in that relationship you and your partner have to know how to beat the punches.

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Him and I ( yes my him♥♥♥) have been together now for 13 years (married 5). We have seen everything from job loss, Death of love ones, and family drama to name a few. Being together this long has truly showed us how to love and appreciate each other for who they are, and not just what they can bring to the table. When we got together, in my head, all I could thinks was he is just like the rest. Plus at the time I was already in a relationship that was going through the motion, (issues) so I was not interested in anyone else but curious of him 🙂 Any new thing when bad things are going on will have you floating with the stars. It will take your mind away. You can literally get caught up. After just a few weeks  of talking and hanging out, we had SEX. Now I did not plan on it there was no discussion about it, it just happened.

Sex really was not discussed at the beginning of the relationship, so when it happened I was like ok what now? I knew that it was not right, but what is right at this point. We already had been talking, and I felt like it was natural how it all happened. Eventually we moved into a relationship status and here we are today.

This one topic be it not is still maybe the #1 topic in our marriage other than finances. Being together this long you have to find ways to keep it fresh. At times I may not be in the mood, but my husband is always ready ;0) Being everything under the sun for my husband and kids along with caring for my grandmother definitely places a strain on me, and I just don’t want to be bothered at times, but I also know I don’t want no one else pleasing My Him so I push through. My husband understands that I am busy and have a lot going on, but when it comes to his time he is very vocal. 😉

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Regardless of the subject of discussion. Communication is the key. After all that me and my husband have been through, if we did not talk to each other, or try to understand what is going on with the other, All ham will break loose. There has been times we went to sleep upset with each other, and no one can see eye to eye. We think that maybe if I had said it this way, or if he knew this then we… In life to grow to the next level, there will be trials to test you. It is up to you if you pass the test.

Any couple who looks perfect on the outside, just has a good handle on there unity. There relationship goals are tight, and no one can say or do anything to break that bond. You have to know coming into any relationship there will be things that will need to be discussed, and if you are not able to understand, identify, and resolve the issue at hand. You will have a hard time in any relationship. Until next time. #Mytruth

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To Know…Who I am

As a little girl I could always remember that I was going to be someone awesome. I always was outspoken, kept a smile on my face and ready to sing a tune late night for a group of my dad and mom friends. I grew up not always having the finer things in life, the silver spoon per say, but I was raised to appreciate and value all that was given to me. I was blessed to have a mom and dad in one house. It was not always peaches and cream but my dads love for my mom was strong like no other. I have 2 brothers and 1 sister. When our mother passed away, we grew closer to each other. We knew that our Bond for each other was stronger because our mom was our pillar. Our Shield, and now she was gone. That lost is was and still is a great mountain to climb. Our mother was everything you could ask for in a listener, comforter, protector a friend. My siblings love and strength was helping our dad continue on life without his best friend. Our parents was married for 29yrs when mommy passed away. My dad 3 months after our moms passing, passed away with a broken heart. 3 months to the date and time of our mother passing, our father went to join her in paradise. I remember the night before my dads stroke, he gave me a call. He was watching his favorite basketball team play (Lakers) and enjoying his beverage. We laughed and joked and said our I love U’s before disconnecting the call.  I appreciate them both more then I was able to tell them in person here on earth. My daughter is 15 and I have an 11 year old son. My husband and I have been together for 13 years and married for 5. I thank God everyday for him. He keeps me align to my truth and to know your truth is to know your own. Conversations with Carlisa will be uplifting, encouraging, funny, sad. Real life truth. My Truth. I am so excited to start blogging with you and connecting with you. I hope I am able to inspire you to be your best you can be. While I encourage you, I hope you will encourage me. We shall grow together. Make sure to share, like and leave a comment below. I appreciate your reading. #Mytruth