A piece of MyTruth #BeInspired

Sometimes when you put your mind to do something that you really want to do, a part of you always wants to hold you back. Why is that? Mytruth (pause n think) is it more than just fear? Why do the average person put so much pressure on there self? Every day you are faced with new trials, situations. Yet we still get upset by the outcome or how it may turn out if it does not go in our favor. At least the first time around.ย Carowinds Fun 7and8th grade band Chorus Orchestra 025

Stress is a beast, and knows how to destroy if one allows. So why stress out during a certain situation? Only because it is in our human DNA to impress and always look good in the eye of the next. I have to catch myself at times, especially with being a mother.

Sometimes I feel as if I am not doing enough when it comes to my kids. Of course as parents you always want to give your kids more than what you had growing up, so yes parenting is and can be stressful. They are priority #1. So making sure all there needs are met will put a lot of pressure on you. Keep in mind that we are not robots, and we will and I say this as softly as possible (excuse my french) Fuck up some things along the way and that is fine, because we are learning and teaching each other.

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That is what life is all about. Each one teach one. So I try not to stress out (It still happens) but I know that I am human and shit will happen along the way. I just have to suck it up, and move on. Situations will occur, if they don’t, then what are we doing? Why are we living? Even the riches man has issues, but he sure ain’t gonna let that stop the next move. His next step is always a way to make the situation work in his favor. Take a bow and just keep living life. Make choices that will bring a bounty of gold for generations to come. Remember you can control the outcome, with how you put your energy out in the universe. #My Truthย 

Do you know cooking?

Cooking for me is a comfort passion. I never really understood how important cooking was until my parents passed away. My mom passed away in Sep, and thanksgiving as we all know is right around the corner. My dad and mom would combo team all the big things. You know: Turkey, Ham, Candy Yams, Stuffing…etc. So 2010 was a different year as we knew it for the wigfall ‘s. I took on the cooking for that year, and my dad was happy.
I knew how to cook a little, because I have a family of my own, and you know, you need to be able to cook a good wholesome meal. You can ask my husband. My cooking is definitely one of many reasons why he is still my husband ;0)

Now a select few in my household does not eat pork and or red meat. I also have my elderly grandma that got to eat too, and she also has a list of select items she can not eat. Grandma sneaky though, she will try it and pray all is well. She just want a taste.

You may be wondering well what in the ham is her point. Why is she talking about cooking? Mytruth cooking is a way to bring people together. Cooking is a staple point of all relationships. Shh everybody got to eat.

Look at your local food banks and community churches that is hosting a food drive or a fish fry to bring people together and share love through cooking. How bout when you with your crew just hanging and chillen. Laughing and talking bout things no one around you may even understand. Food is definitely in the picture some where.
Rather you chewing on some wings, my favorite ;0) or eating a gourmet meal with all the fixings. Cherish the people around you at that time. Make the most of it. Live Love Food, #MyTruth.

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Pressure and Release

As he pushes back and forth, in and out leaving a mark that only she holds. He vowed to love and cherish every part of her. With a steady hand, he caresses her leg applying gentle kisses on her neck and ear. She can no more contain her self, so she releases a passionate scream while releasing gentle waves of her into him. A passion of love, through spirit and body. No one knows how it will end until the release. #Mytruthย 

Nightly Kiss

I wanna be with you, (got to be with you) need to be with you,ย 
They see that we did that (yes)
Its so true that (yes)
We’ve been through it (yes)
We got real sh$$ (yes)
See baby we been too strong for too long (and I can’t be without you baby) …
Mary J. Blige- Be Without You

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

My Black IS…Beautiful

While on my come up, I never saw myself to be a beautiful black girl. I did not think MY BLACK was beautiful. Now do not get it twisted,ย  I loved being black, but not so much a dark skinned black girl.

 

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For some reason back in my youngin days, Mytruth I felt as if, if you was not light skinned and or had some hair on your head (couple of inches close to the shoulder) you was not seen. To me your hair is like your crown. Answer this? When you get a fresh hair do, what is the first thing you want to do after your hair is done regardless sometimes what you have on? :0) take a PICTURE.

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Now I knew I was a beautiful girl. I just did not understand why I felt as if I was not beautiful with the skin, hair, beauty I was in. Now before you think I was just a bitterย  girl,ย  please continue reading. ย  I do not want you to feel no sadness, just hear Mytruth ๐Ÿ™‚ My dad would take me to his lady friends and or family members to do my hair. I had it all from singles, cornrow like black girl (inside joke, My Von would understand ๐Ÿ˜‰ and of course my favorite, that HOT HOT press out. Hot comb I should say. Until that one day I told my dad I wanted a relaxer. OMG why did I do that to myself. Now the relaxer, wasย  like the suga back in the day.

Everybody was going straight ๐Ÿ™‚ You could find a relaxer like Motions, and or Just for me (in my singing voice, y’all member that song ๐Ÿ™‚ ), in the hair salons, your momma kitchen or living room. That’s when boxed perms was the suga. Well my 1st relaxer was completed in a kitchen. Now me as a little girl assumed she knew what the ham she was doing but ahh no. I was wrong. At some point after she puts the relaxer in my hair, she puts me under a hair dryer. She told me I would sit for 5 min and then she would wash you my hair. It all sounded right. Well long story short it burned most of my hair out my head. No one really knows this story except close family and of course my husband. As I got older I always struggled with my hair. I remember one time while I was in middle school, I put so much grease in my hair, that everyone thought it was a jerry curl. I thank God for my Von. That day she did my hair for the 1st time changed my whole world of hair. I felt gorgeous. She was in hair school that year, so I was lucky to be her hair style tester. Till this day, My Von still does my hair.ย 

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So look, regardless of complexion, hair, tall, short, dark, light. We have to know we are beautiful. As a little girl growing up in the late 80 into the 90’s, there was no internet, and or cell phones. So with the way this internet generation is set up, we have to love on all our little black girls. Tell them they are beautiful in there natural short kinky curly hair. Dark skinned, Coco brown, Caramel skin. All little girls of all complexions should know there worth and beauty at an early age, so as they age, they age to be beautiful inside and out, and know there worth regardless of how they look. BBB is what my sister, Von and I would end in our text message or phone conversation. Blessed, Black, Beautiful #Mytruthย 

 

 

To Know…Who I am

As a little girl I could always remember that I was going to be someone awesome. I always was outspoken, kept a smile on my face and ready to sing a tune late night for a group of my dad and mom friends. I grew up not always having the finer things in life, the silver spoon per say, but I was raised to appreciate and value all that was given to me. I was blessed to have a mom and dad in one house. It was not always peaches and cream but my dads love for my mom was strong like no other. I have 2 brothers and 1 sister. When our mother passed away, we grew closer to each other. We knew that our Bond for each other was stronger because our mom was our pillar. Our Shield, and now she was gone. That lost is was and still is a great mountain to climb. Our mother was everything you could ask for in a listener, comforter, protector a friend. My siblings love and strength was helping our dad continue on life without his best friend. Our parents was married for 29yrs when mommy passed away. My dad 3 months after our moms passing, passed away with a broken heart. 3 months to the date and time of our mother passing, our father went to join her in paradise. I remember the night before my dads stroke, he gave me a call. He was watching his favorite basketball team play (Lakers) and enjoying his beverage. We laughed and joked and said our I love U’s before disconnecting the call.ย  I appreciate them both more then I was able to tell them in person here on earth. My daughter is 15 and I have an 11 year old son. My husband and I have been together for 13 years and married for 5. I thank God everyday for him. He keeps me align to my truth and to know your truth is to know your own. Conversations with Carlisa will be uplifting, encouraging, funny, sad. Real life truth. My Truth. I am so excited to start blogging with you and connecting with you. I hope I am able to inspire you to be your best you can be. While I encourage you, I hope you will encourage me. We shall grow together. Make sure to share, like and leave a comment below. I appreciate your reading. #Mytruth