You did what? #Changes

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How is that when you decide to do something different in your life, and you may have shared the possible change with your mom, dad, or even your closest friend there reaction is not what you was expecting. The response most people give off can be a negative response, and for someone going through a life changing situation that is the last thing they want to hear or see.

 

Mytruth, the only reason most people give off a negative response is because they are deep down jealous or want to make changes in there own life but don’t know where to start, so they will do everything in there power to stop your joy. Yea it can also be that they may not think your choice is a good one, but at any given time someone comes to you with a positive change they feel will come to there life, should be embraced. You should give them some type of positive light, not bring them down. Family is the worst at being negative. Mainly because they are around when your UP and when your DOWN. They saw how it was when you was down, now you have a plan of success, and to them you have to do it there way, and whatever you was thinking is wrong. Can they truly feel what you feel? No! I tell my kids all the time. No one else can live your life. You have to stand tall and alone sometime.

 

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There is always somebody waiting on you to fall. No matter what. At the same time technically we all have to live this way. Even in relationships. When I say relationships that can be your job, relationships with friends and also when conducting business. You have to make sure you have your own back 1st, before you place trust in someone else to have over your energy. Your power. You have to make sure you can handle whatever may be thrown at you. A lot of things believe it or not can break a person.

I make sure that when in any relationship, I try to be there for that person, and cheer them on. I have very few people that I can call a friend, because trust for me is a powerful energy source. When my parents passed in 2010, so many things came out about family, and people my parents called friends. I don’t allow any situation to block me out, or shut me down, but best believe I got all eyes on you :0) I say that with a smile. I keep moving forward. Don’t put energy somewhere that will draw negative energy.
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There is only one you, so be YOU and live your life. We all want to be happy, and what is one thing that makes everybody happy MONEY, so I say go make some and be happy. #Mytruth Β 

 

 

 

 

Got Milk?

Walking into the room, not knowing what Pandora’s box will hold, I anticipate each step. Our eyes meet burning with passion, neither wanted to turn away. Your approach left me stuck as if I was seduced. A passionate bite on the lips told me there was more to this ride. He said ” What are you drinking?” To my response “Got Milk”?Β 

 

 

 

 

A piece of MyTruth #BeInspired

Sometimes when you put your mind to do something that you really want to do, a part of you always wants to hold you back. Why is that? Mytruth (pause n think) is it more than just fear? Why do the average person put so much pressure on there self? Every day you are faced with new trials, situations. Yet we still get upset by the outcome or how it may turn out if it does not go in our favor. At least the first time around.Β Carowinds Fun 7and8th grade band Chorus Orchestra 025

Stress is a beast, and knows how to destroy if one allows. So why stress out during a certain situation? Only because it is in our human DNA to impress and always look good in the eye of the next. I have to catch myself at times, especially with being a mother.

Sometimes I feel as if I am not doing enough when it comes to my kids. Of course as parents you always want to give your kids more than what you had growing up, so yes parenting is and can be stressful. They are priority #1. So making sure all there needs are met will put a lot of pressure on you. Keep in mind that we are not robots, and we will and I say this as softly as possible (excuse my french) Fuck up some things along the way and that is fine, because we are learning and teaching each other.

Lets go

 

That is what life is all about. Each one teach one. So I try not to stress out (It still happens) but I know that I am human and shit will happen along the way. I just have to suck it up, and move on. Situations will occur, if they don’t, then what are we doing? Why are we living? Even the riches man has issues, but he sure ain’t gonna let that stop the next move. His next step is always a way to make the situation work in his favor. Take a bow and just keep living life. Make choices that will bring a bounty of gold for generations to come. Remember you can control the outcome, with how you put your energy out in the universe. #My TruthΒ 

Do you want to touch?

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Sitting waiting on your call, I can only imagine what may happen if you was truly here. Music playin, candles lit, and you and me to create a new love scene. The passion from me and you,Β makes me gasp at the thought of us connecting. Not knowing how you may tame me, the sight of your strong third arm has my body pulsating all over, and you propose the question… Do you want to touch?

 

I get so weak in the knees, I can hardly speak.
I lose all control and something takes over me.
In a daze and it’s so amazing, it’s not a phase.
I want you to stay with me, by my side I swallow my pride, your love is so sweet it knocks me right off of my feet. Can’t explain why your loving makes me so weak.
SWV- Weak

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Do you know cooking?

Cooking for me is a comfort passion. I never really understood how important cooking was until my parents passed away. My mom passed away in Sep, and thanksgiving as we all know is right around the corner. My dad and mom would combo team all the big things. You know: Turkey, Ham, Candy Yams, Stuffing…etc. So 2010 was a different year as we knew it for the wigfall ‘s. I took on the cooking for that year, and my dad was happy.
I knew how to cook a little, because I have a family of my own, and you know, you need to be able to cook a good wholesome meal. You can ask my husband. My cooking is definitely one of many reasons why he is still my husband ;0)

Now a select few in my household does not eat pork and or red meat. I also have my elderly grandma that got to eat too, and she also has a list of select items she can not eat. Grandma sneaky though, she will try it and pray all is well. She just want a taste.

You may be wondering well what in the ham is her point. Why is she talking about cooking? Mytruth cooking is a way to bring people together. Cooking is a staple point of all relationships. Shh everybody got to eat.

Look at your local food banks and community churches that is hosting a food drive or a fish fry to bring people together and share love through cooking. How bout when you with your crew just hanging and chillen. Laughing and talking bout things no one around you may even understand. Food is definitely in the picture some where.
Rather you chewing on some wings, my favorite ;0) or eating a gourmet meal with all the fixings. Cherish the people around you at that time. Make the most of it. Live Love Food, #MyTruth.

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Just life a box of Chocolates. The assorted box.

“Life is like a box of chocolates…”. I never really saw the entire movie-Β  Forrest Gump, but I did see that part. That one statement is so true, and we all can relate, Mytruth life is like a box of chocolates.

Chocolates.jpgEveryday we go about our day to day routines not expecting that something can throw you off course. We plan, organize, and prepare knowing that it will work out. I know that for me, I try but there is always something that comes about to make me say, this was not on the list. Especially as a parent, we basically inherit any and mostly all issues of our children until they are 18, however being a parent in my eyes will be 365 for the remainder of my minis 365, and that’s just what it is. SO yes when any situation (assorted chocolate) come up you have to be able to handle it. Even when it throws your whole day off.

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Just recently my minis went on summer break, and was anticipating there report cards in the mail, because the schools that my minis go to does not release report cards on the last day of school, they mail it. So for my oldest, my baby girl she worked her butt off this school year. This was her 1st year in high school (9th) and, she wanted to start out great. on track. ;0) She was in all honors classes, and also was in concert band she even try-out for some school activities. She strived in all her classes to make no less than a 90 in all her classes. My youngest, my handsome baby boy on the other hand was just praying to the baby Jesus that he passes to the 7th grade.

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The last few weeks before school was out my son ensured that he completed all missing assignments, and did his best on quiz retakes. So on the last day of school when he came home with this huge smile and said that he was going to the 7th grade, that made me feel so happy and excited for him. His dad and I was his biggest cheerleaders and with hard work it paid off.Β  Now my husband said that he was proud of him ;0) and happy but he needed to see the proof first, just to conquer what he was saying was his truth. My son can be a lil sneaky, anybody who knows him and or me personally knows from my conversations with them about him. Love him ;0)

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Hard work pays off

So any who he needed to show his dad the proof. Baby girl already knew that she was passing, but she wanted to see her grades and achievements from the school year. So my son received his report card 1st, but my daughter was still in anticipation. So finally it was here. That envelope that Taria was waiting on, and when she opened that envelope her mouth dropped. The school mailed her a letter, stating she owed a $100.00 fee for band.

If you could’ve seen the hurt in my baby girl eyes. She was upset, and me Mytruth I was Peed off (P@$! Off) I went on a rant. Why do you owe a $100.00 band fee, and for what? Look, I will pay the bill when due, but I need to know for what?…. and why was this not informed at the beginning, middle or half point way through the school year.

She received every other report card, progress report. My daughter owns her flute, and there was no special uniform needed, because she did not perform outside of the school. So again I said for what???

So I proceeded to read the letter and noticed that in order to make payments or even contact, you have to email the booster club? Say what? I need a phone #. This is a prime example of my opening statement, Life if like a box of chocolates, you just don’t know what you will get. Taria was prepared for the report card, but did not expect the outcome of not receiving it when she had already expected.

No limits

I try to go about everyday just knowing that regardless how that day may start…. with sunshine and roses, and are it may be a day that I am just not feelin. Trust I have those moments, but you have to live for the moment. Especially when you have the minis looking up to you. Mytruth one way are the other, live your life regardless of the chocolate you choose. It may be sour, it may be sweet, hey it can even be a lil nutty, but that’s life, and you have to live yours regardless. While doing it live your truth, and make the best of the outcome. You may not know the taste of the day, but you can choose the outcome by the end of the day.Β  #MyTruth.

 

 

 

 

Do you have me time? #MyTime

 

I need some me time not some you and some I just some she time, oh ooh
I need some she time, not some him and some her just some free time, oh ooh
I wanna run with my girls hit the club, hit the mall get my nails done and hair done
Spend a day at the spa, boy you ain’t got to worry, there ain’t nothing going on
I need some me time and that’s all, and that’s all- “Heather Headley- Me Time

 

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Dealing with everyday stresses of the world can have you feeling like you don’t even have time to close your eyes for 2.5 seconds. The kids, your husband and or family can be the numero uno of draining you out. Just a day a go, I finally took some me time. Time for myself. Your Me time is whatever keeps you cool ,calm, collective. Helps you to stay sane in your right mind. Rather you enjoy shopping, or a spa date, walking through your neighborhood park, or turnin up at that next party or concert you wanted to attend. That is your time. Your Truth. I rarely take time for my self. Like personal time. I hear people say all the time, “Carlisa you better take some time for your self” and my all time response-Β  “I will”. Well after reschedule after reschedule, I went to see the doctor. If you know me personally well then you already know. I tend to procrastinate on things that I feel can wait. Being a caretaker for an elderly person can be very demanding, and when I stepped in to care for my grandma, my mommy mom, after the passing of my mom in 2010, I started to feel the stress and woes of being a caretaker, mother and wife.

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My mom although at that time, grandma could still drive and do normal everyday things for her self, even take her pills. She did everything for grandma. She made her feel like a queen. Food was prepared, house was clean, clothes wash. etc. Even while still pleasing her husband of 29 years, 4 kids and 2 grand kids. My mom was a trooper. So sadly when mommy pass it was almost expected that grandma would need extra care, assistance especially with her baby girl passing away. After a few months grandma was hospitalized with water around her heart and she even fell a few times. This resulted in her staying in a nursing home for a month, but released to home care, with assistance from nurses, and physical therapist coming to the house. My husband, brothers, sister and kids had to step it up. Grandma needed round the clock assistance. Just like having another child. We did what we had to do.

Me Time

Mytruth, I felt as if I was becoming my mom. Not like that was a bad thing, it’s just she never put her self first. She was always making sure everyone was ok, and not ensuring she was ok. So I over time felt as if I was starting that same trend. Caring for love ones, rushing them to doctor appointments, cooking, cleaning….you get my drift, and still not one time saying ok Carlisa what about you? Going to the doctor office was definitely a Me time moment. It felt good to sit down with my physician, and she say to me ok carlisa how are you? Is there anything I need to know? I know this may sound corny, but of all places I was happy to go to the doctor? Yes, because I know that my health, body, mind, and spirit is doing good. My husband bless his heart, hears all my issues ( Love HIM;) ) and him knowing that I am ok brings peace to my mind and his. And knowing I will have more conversations of Mytruth is everything. Life is short we hear it all the time. Make sure you take some time out for YOU. Have your Me Time. #MytruthΒ